Monday, April 18, 2005
communication
I talk about everything with the women in my life. And we can talk for hours about one subject. If we have a problem with each other or just a problem in general we can talk and talk until things are all worked out. Why is it that it isn't that way with men. They certainly know how to make a mess and then just sweep it under the mat. You try to talk with them and they don't even acknowledge that there is a problem. They have a way of creating a problem and then when you try to talk with them about it they just pretend it doesn't exsist. Mine likes to say that I didn't understand the way he says something. Or he'll say I take things too personally. I think it's their way of thinking they have control. They control the relationship (they think) when they come in and say things or do things that they know is wrong, usually opening their mouth or doing something before thier brain reminds them that it's wrong, and then they quickly end the subject thinking that it will never be brought up again. But the women they do this to aren't going to give up control that easily. We for some reason don't have that instinct of just letting things go. We dwell on things for days on end and they longer we dwell the more we feel hurt. Maybe we should try to be more like men...create a mess, end it just as quickly by pretending we don't have a clue that there is even a problem, then have sex to relieve all the tension. Then you watch Dr. Phil and he tells us all to start communicating when there is a problem...He's a man...Does that mean that all problems should just be ended as soon as the sex is over. "Talk to the man, tell him how you feel about the situation" How many times has Dr. Phil said that? Obviously he lives in his own world because I haven't met a man yet that knows how to communicate.
